Diana, 57, has four children, one grandchild and has been married to her husband, Bernie for 29 years. Ever since Diana has known Bernie, he has had issues with his knee due to a football injury in college. Diana wanted Bernie to have a knee replacement years ago but he was wary. He only decided to have it done after speaking with a friend who had had the operation. Diana opens up about the anxiety that her husband was having leading up to surgery and talks about how he was ready to back out up until the last minute. She regrets that she didn’t know how much anxiety Bernie was feeling at the time.
DIANA: I'm Diana. I'm 57 and I-I have four children. One grandchild, Francis [PH] who's four, a husband, Bernard [PH].
DIANA: We've been married 29 years.
DIANA: He has always had a bad knee since I met him. It was a football injury when he was in college. And he had surgery then. And 20 years later we moved into our house and he slipped down our stairs and had surgery on the same knee again. So since I've met him he's always had a little bit of a limp. Has always had knee pain. And it's progressively gotten worse and probably 10 years ago I really started bugging him about having a knee replacement. Because it was limiting him in our activities. And he went to the doctor which we share the same doctor and he said, "Oh no, you're too young. You're way too young. You need to wait another 10 years."
DIANA: He was in a lot of pain. I don't think he ever would admit that he was in pain. He would just say, "My knee's bad." He couldn't sit in the theater. He was pretty much almost dragging that leg around so it was almost dead weight. He had gone to the doctors, they had given him a couple of cortisone shots which helped for a couple of days and then it was back. You could tell he was in a lot of pain. And it's been almost 10 years and he finally went to the doctor, scheduled a knee replacement for May. And then our daughter was getting married in April and I just didn't think he was gonna be able to make it till then and he coincidentally had lunch with a friend who just had had it done. Saw a new doctor and got him in in January.
DIANA: I don't think he still was on board with that, you know, even after he made the appointment he was up until the last minute ready to back out 'cause he's just didn't wanna have this done. And I was just so excited that he was gonna have it done and have it done before the wedding.
I didn't really know the anxiety he was suffering before. So that was one thing that I thought, "Wow, I should have been paying more attention to that." Because it really was a big deal for him.
DIANA: He lost probably 10 to 12 pounds before the surgery. And I knew he-I knew he was like a little bit nervous about it but I had no idea. Knowing what I know now, I would have gotten him a prescription of something to calm him down because it makes me sad that he was so anxious and I didn't get it. I was just so excited that he was gonna have this surgery finally. I mean I've been bugging him for years to have it so I feel bad that I wasn't like paying attention to what he was really going through.